卑省女孩雅曼達在You Tube上發布了她遭受霸凌的經過。（取材自網路）
卑 詩省高貴林港少女雅曼達陶德（Amanda Todd）因受多年網路及同儕霸凌，本周三在家中自殺，而一個月前，她剛剛在Youtube上留下影片講述被霸凌遭遇。少女之死引起了社會各界的關注，省 長簡惠芝發話要嚴肅對待，皇家騎警也開始調查案件，支持者們透過臉書等多種渠道表達哀悼，專家們則認為，在網路盛行的今天，逃避霸凌並非易事。
西門菲莎大學教育教授卡辛迪（Wanda Cassidy）表示，網路霸凌（cyberbullying）已是青年世界中一個真實的部分。網路霸凌不像現實霸凌，可以知道攻擊者是誰，然後避開。在網路霸凌中，人們無法知道霸凌者是誰，因此網路霸凌顯得讓人無處可逃。
學童求助熱線的諮詢師香農（Shannon Freud）表示，前來求助的女生常表示遭受霸凌常導致抑鬱、自我傷害、自我否定、無法正常進食以及產生自殺念頭。同時，與男生所遭受的挨打等霸凌方式不同，女生所遭受的多是言語中傷，尤其是來自網路的社會媒體。
香農指出，社會媒體已經成為青少年生活的重要部分，青少年間的交流和互動多採用網路的形式，因此，要他們關掉電腦或臉書帳號來阻止霸凌的發生並非易事。一位母親說：「你不能阻止網路霸凌除非你不讓你的孩子使用網路，但你不可能這麼做。」
來自加拿大孩童保護中心的阿納森（Signy Arnason）指出，過去五年，該中心共接到卑省超過3000例孩童在線性剝削投訴。更糟糕的是，許多孩子因為感到尷尬或害怕受到家長懲罰或怕被同學嘲笑或霸凌而不願意發聲。
網 路安全拓展協會的總監霍頓（Merlyn Horton）針對本次發生的悲劇指出，家長一定要多與孩子交流來自網路的危險情況。儘管會覺得尷尬，但仍然要告訴孩子們：不要在網路上與陌生人討論性， 不要讓任何人拍下性照；上網時不一定要使用真實的姓名、生日、家庭住址和郵政編碼。此外，家長還可以要求孩子在家裡的開放空間使用電腦，不要將可上網的設 備帶入臥室等。有關上網的注意事項應該在孩子三年級時就給予提醒。
此外，還有專家認為，雖然霸凌不是導致自殺的唯一原因，但家長們應多與孩子交流，一旦發現有自殺的苗頭，要勇敢詢問是否孩子是否有此傾向，才能抓住時機幫助孩子。
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Amanda Todd's mother speaks out about daughter's suicide
Teen made a YouTube video about the harassment that eventually led to her taking her own life
Amanda Todd was 12 years old when she made a mistake that would haunt her until her death three years later.
She killed herself this week, one month shy of her 16th birthday and one month after telling the world through a YouTube video of bullying that left her depressed and despairing.
Her mother, Carol Todd, doesn't want other children to suffer as Amanda did - stalked and harassed by bullies in cyberspace and in the schoolyard, by people she knew and by stalkers many miles away.
Amanda told her story in the heart-wrenching video that chronicled her nightmare: the taunts, the beating, the cyber-stalker who tracked her down whenever she tried to start afresh at a new school - firing off images that captured her showing off her young body, flattered by online attention from someone she thought was a kid just like her.
The video and the photos went to teachers, to parents, to Facebook friends, which lead to repeated taunts: "Oh, there's the porn star."
Now Carol wants to tell her story. It is a story no mother wants to tell.
"Amanda was a very caring individual. She would help others who needed help," Carol told The Vancouver Sun during an exclusive interview Friday at her home, where she was surrounded by friends and family. "One of Amanda's goals was to get her message out there and have it used as a learning tool for others."
As a teacher in the Coquitlam school district and a specialist in assistive technologies, Carol is comfortable around computers and knows well the dangers the online world can hold. Still, she wasn't able to protect her child.
"I have lost one child, but know she wanted her story to save 1,000 more."
In putting together her video, which Amanda did on her own, Carol said her daughter wanted to help other young people who are being bullied and to bring attention and education to the problem in the hope of seeing it eradicated.
"Amanda wanted to tell her story to help other kids. I want to tell my story to help parents, so they can be aware, so they can teach their kids what is right and wrong and how to be safe online," she said. "Kids have iPads, they have smart-phones, technology is much more accessible than it was even five years ago - that is the dangerous factor." Carol has launched a trust fund in Amanda's memory to raise money for anti-bullying awareness education and for support programs for youth with mental health issues.
Amanda was the victim of unrelenting blackmail. And the cyberspace stalker was aided by people in Amanda's real-world life - kids who would share the photos on their cellphones, kids who would gang up to hurl first verbal abuse and then fists at Todd.
"Everything she said in the video happened over the past two years," said Carol. "It was horrendous. I think about it now and I think, 'Oh my God. How did she survive this long with the pain?'" The end, when it came, was a shock. Despite Amanda's earlier suicide attempts, Carol said in recent days and weeks she was getting much better. She spent time in hospital in September, getting treatment and counselling.
Her life was starting to go back to normal, which it hadn't been since grade 8.
"She felt like a normal teenager, she was so proud of herself," said Carol. "She went out with friends, she went to the mall, she said to me, 'Mom, this is the first time that I feel normal again. I have had the best day ever.'"
Carol doesn't know what caused her daughter's setback, but Amanda may have given Carol an answer in a private video.
"She left me a video message on her phone. I'm not ready to look at it yet," said Carol.
"The coroner has told me it will provide closure for me but I can't look at it yet."
Carol doesn't know what happened, but sometime earlier this week - before Amanda killed herself late Wednesday afternoon - something happened to shatter that fragile recovery.
Her ordeal started when Amanda was fooling around online with friends. She probably didn't think it was risky behaviour when she lifted her top to flash the person who was flattering her at the other end of the webcam.
Amanda's moment of indiscretion was not unusual for someone her age: Sexting and using webcams to share sexual photos is a growing trend among children, some so young they are still in grade school.
"The Internet stalker she flashed kept stalking her," said Carol. "Every time she moved schools he would go undercover and become a Facebook friend. What the guy did was he went to online to the kids who went to (the new school) and said that he was going to be a new student - that he was starting school the following week and that he wanted some friends and could they friend him on Facebook."
"He eventually gathered people's names and sent Amanda's video to her new school."
The police couldn't track him down. "The police investigated and investigated, it got traced to somebody in the United States," said Carol. "But they never found him. Those people are very good at hiding their tracks." The suspected pedophile threatened that if she didn't do a show for him, he would send her pictures off again. Amanda wouldn't bow to the pressure and he would carry out his threat.
"Then students and teachers would get them, people would start bullying Amanda and calling her 'porn star' and other names. It increased her anxiety and she couldn't go to class," said Carol.
Finger-pointing at schools for not stopping bullying only angers Carol. She said Amanda, who had learning problems, had excellent support in the Coquitlam school district, where Amanda spent most of her school time.
Since March, she was a student at CABE, Coquitlam Alternate Basic Education secondary school, which is a haven for youth who, for whatever reason, need the alternate learning situation.
It was there that Amanda made friends, among both the students and staff.
"She had a good support network there," said Carol. Among the teachers Amanda especially liked was former Olympic track and field star Leah Pells, who teaches physical education at the school. "She and Amanda clicked and Amanda trusted her," said Carol.
Carol is much more tech savvy than the average parent.
But Amanda's victimization at the hands of the stalker led Carol to learn more about the horrifying world of child pornography, where some victims don't even know their images are being shown on porn sites.
"You'll see pornography and the girls are so young," she said.
"I don't know if the girls are doing this for kicks, if their parents are monitoring it or if they even know about it.
When Amanda's story and video went viral this week, the outpouring of grief from local teens left Carol unable to distinguish Amanda's true friends from those who may have helped drive her to suicide.
The Amanda Todd trust fund is being held at the Royal Bank of Canada, which will be accepting donations in Amanda's name at all its branches.
gshaw@vancouversun.com
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宅男網上裸聊墮色慾陷阱 除褲示愛遭越洋勒索
被勒索青年住在屯門景峰花園。
【本 報訊】網上裸體聊天風氣日盛，稍一不慎，隨時墮入勒索陷阱。一名 80後青年在社交網站 facebook結識一名日本姓名女子後，雙方轉而在網上對話。青年受女方鼓動下「除衫除褲」示愛，對方隨即露出真面目，聲稱已錄下其裸露片段，勒索 1,000元過戶至其戶口。青年不甘損失報警，警方初步調查發現詐騙者戶口來自菲律賓，正了解是否涉及跨境集團犯罪。
記者：陳偉良
首 試網上裸聊便招致損失的青年居於屯門景峰花園一單位，據悉任職文員。消息指他早前在 facebook結識一名日本姓名、署名為「 Kiuchi」的女子，雙方談得投契，隨即改用網上聊天工具 Skype直接對話。兩人傾得火熱，開始以色情對話互相試探，女方更提出一絲不掛在網上見面，希望嘗試虛擬性愛的滋味。青年談得「性」起，心中狂喜答應要 求，未知已墮入勒索陷阱。
詐騙者戶口來自菲國
雙方隨即打開網絡攝 影機，一邊目睹對方裸露的身體，一邊打出火辣露骨字句，青年首嘗網上裸聊，興奮過度下更做出疑似手淫動作。女方見狀隨即關閉網絡攝影機，露出本來面目，聲 稱已攝錄青年裸露片段，要求他付 1,000元「贖片」，威脅若有不從，便放片上 facebook，讓其好友共賞。
青年害怕成嘲笑對象，無奈答應對方要求，急往附近櫃員機過戶 1,000元予對方，希望息事寧人。他冷靜過後，不甘「貼錢去畀人睇自己裸露表演」，鼓起勇氣報案。
議員促警方加強監察
警方經初步調查後，發現涉嫌網上詐騙者名下戶口來自菲律賓，正了解是否牽涉跨境集團利用網上裸聊誘騙無知青年裸露身體，然後錄片勒索。
科技界立法會議員譚偉豪稱，以往曾聽聞內地以裸聊方式勒索高官富商，料有關風氣已成為犯罪分子犯案新手法。譚指對方只要求小額金錢及提供跨境戶口，主要覷準警方不會因單一小案而驚動兩地警察部門聯手調查，因而大膽犯案；相信事件只是冰山一角，促請警方加強監察網絡犯罪。
青年裸聊遭勒索示意圖
1） 80後青年網上結識女子後，相約 Skype對話，席間提出裸聊
2）青年在網絡攝影機前有所動作後，女方聲稱已錄下其裸露片段，勒索 1,000元
3）青年害怕成嘲笑對象，在櫃員機過戶 1,000元予對方戶口
4）冷靜過後，青年不甘遭勒索，決定報警
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屢見不鮮
社工：拒裸聊免招損
隨着社會開放，網上裸聊或公開裸照已非新鮮事，網上討論區內有大量留言分享裸聊心得，有社工指曾收過裸照或裸聊勒索個案，受害者事後擔驚受怕，不知裸照何時公開，情緒大受困擾，提醒青年應三思而後行。
網絡攝影機易遭強制打開
青協督導主任鄧良順表示，以往曾收到求助個案，受害人稱網上與異性交往，並按照對方要求，傳裸照予對方；對方隨即威嚇公開裸照，結果受害者須接受社工輔導，甚至要報案。
鄧 良順提醒青少年，部份人以為只要在視像聊天或裸照中不露出正面，便可避過被人威嚇勒索的可能性，但很多時黑客可利用惡意驅動程式，強制打開連接電腦的網絡 攝影機，暗中錄下事主一舉一動，故任何人均不應抱僥倖心態；若對方提出裸聊或索取裸照，應嚴詞拒絕，亦不應在網上聊天時按動任何可疑程式。
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